In 2005, I experienced 3 major life changes. In March of that year, I separated from my husband of 16 years. In August, I lost my job and in October, my mom died very suddenly. I didn’t realize that these were major life changes, and I just kept moving on like everything was ok…but everything was not ok and unbeknownst to me, I really wasn’t acting normal.
I decided to start a business and named it HTS - Hayes Technical Solutions for several reasons. One, I wanted to be recognized by my maiden name since I was in the process of a divorce and found myself in a new territory called total independence. Two, because the name pretty much covered everything. I could do it all Event Planning, web design, newsletter...you name it I could do it or so I thought. I was just all over the place, desperately trying to keep my sanity during the darkest period that I had ever encountered. I just wanted to make money. Money means success, right? Success means happiness right? That was my thinking back then. So HTS’s motto became headed towards Success.
One of the first things I did was to publish an e-newsletter. While it focused mostly on the political climate in 2005 – 2007, it also offered information and resources on a variety of topics. I continued to encounter obstacles from a bitter and mean ex husband, to embattlement with my oldest brother to joblessness and three teen-age daughter whom, when sent to stay with their father one summer decided they wanted to stay. After a mental meltdown I stopped everything and for two years went into a deep depression and began using drugs to ease all the hurt that I was feeling. Funny thing is, during all that, I still prayed and read my bible…high and all. Finally I admitted myself into a mental facility for 10 days, and 10 days later, I had a new job as a Student Advisor at a High School. This job doesn’t pay a lot of money, but it is very fulfilling.
The tribulations continued. It seemed as if the devil himself was trying to kill me. In March of 2010, a SEPTA bus ran a red light and had it not been for the grace of GOD himself, I might not be here today. Since my car was paid for I only carried liability insurance with limited tort so I couldn’t sue or get my car replaced. I just kept praying and kept it moving, saved up some more and got another car in May. On November 5, my middle daughter was in labor and I waited for her call to go to the hospital. Around 10pm, someone rode down my street and, out of all the cars on the street, hit my car and tore it up! Did I have the right insurance this time? NO. But I am not discouraged.
On New Year’s Eve, I reviewed the events of my life over the last 10 years… All the eye opening realities that I can see now that I’ve removed those dare rose-colored glasses. I left that 3-story 6 bedroom house; I left my mother’s house that was full of more unpleasant memories than pleasant ones. I now live in a one-bedroom tri-plex, with no car for the first time in 20 years…and I realized…I’D NEVER BEEN HAPPIER! I have that peace that surpasses all understanding.
I AM HER…HEALED, EMPOWERED AND RENEWED.
I decided to re-launch my e-publication on February 23, 2011. Geared towards woman, ages 25 – 60, HER…has a team who is focused on serving our readers with information to Heal, Empower and Renew women’s mind, body and soul.
Our readership spans the US with great emphasis in Chicago, Atlanta, Philadelphia, Texas, Maryland and Wisconsin.
Our Base Team includes Financial Consultant, Anita T. Conner, Tara Colquitt, The Credit Woman, , Hair and Make-up Artist Andrea Powe, Fashion/Beauty Etiquette by Tracey D. Johnson, and yours truly.